Dear Families,
I wanted to share an article I found this weekend that I thought you might find interesting as well. This year, one of my professional goals was to learn about how I can help children develop a growth mindset. There is much important research that shows a student who believes s/he can grow their abilities (growth mindset) have greater motivation and higher achievement than a student who believes his/her ability is fixed (ex. I am smart/not smart). We, as parents and teachers, influence a child's mindset. I hope you enjoy the following article...
5 Parenting Strategies to Develop a Growth Mindset
I have a daughter who dislikes challenges. She’d rather give up than persevere. This is probably hugely affected by her sensory processing disorder and ADHD. How, I don’t really know. But I do know that shedoes not have what professor Angela Duckworth calls grit and author Carol Dweck calls it a growth mindset. Or at least it’s hidden somewhere.
And I’m worried.
She’s living with a fixed mindset. This is when you believe that people are either born smart or not; that talents, intelligence, and personality can’t be changed. But we know from decades of research that this is simply not true. Our brains are amazingly malleable, even as adults.
Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t need my daughter to get straight As or a perfect score on the ACT test. That’s not it at all. What I care about is my daughter’s life. Having a growth mindset is essential for a successful life. In all areas. (Although kids with a growth mindset do better in school than their peers without. Just saying. . .)
My heart’s desire is that my daughter starts to see her potential by adopting a growth mindset. I want her to believe she can learn anything, grow in areas of challenge, and work hard to solve any problem.
“If parents want to give their children a gift, the best thing they can do is to teach their children to love challenges, be intrigued by mistakes, enjoy effort, and keep on learning.” – Carol Dweck
How do I Help Promote a Growth Mindset?
According to Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D., author of Mindset, I can do the following:
1. Have daily learning discussions.
At dinner, in the car or at bedtime take time for both the kids and parents to share the answers to these types of questions:
“What did you learn to day?” (I LOVE this – so much better than “How was your day?”)
“What mistake did you make that taught you something?
“What did you try hard at today?”
It’s really important says Dweck that I share what I learned, too. This models for kids that I learn new things every day, even learning from failures.
When children share, you can reply like this:
“You certainly did get smarter today.”
“I like the way you tried all kinds of strategies on that math problem until you finally got it right.”
“We all have different learning curves. It may take more time for you to catch on to this and be comfortable with this material, but I you keep at it like this you will.”
“Everyone learns in a different way. Let’s keep trying to find the way that works for you.”
(These are direct quotes from Mindset by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D.)
2. Give feedback on process only.
Praise effort, persistence, strategies, seeking challenges, setting goals, planning, or using creative strategies.
Don’t praise personal abilities like being smart, pretty, or artistic. This kind of praise actually can lead to a loss of confidence since kids won’t be smart at everything. They’ll doubt their ability to be good at something that is difficult initially.
Salman Khan recently wrote that he will never tell his son he’s smart for this very reason. He shares, “Between the deep body of research on the field of learning mindsets and this personal experience with my son, I am more convinced than ever that mindsets toward learning could matter more than anything else we teach.”
The research Dweck did on our feedback to kids is fascinating.
3. Do you know brains can grow?
Explain to kids how the brain can grow stronger and that intelligence can improve throughout your life.Intelligence is not fixed. It’s changeable. This is called brain plasticity. (Aren’t you so glad!?)
What’s more, learning CHANGES our brains. (Again, three cheers for brain growth!) Kids need to know this is possible.
4. Encourage risk, failing, and learning from mistakes.
Now is the time to let our kids risk and fail. Failure teaches our kids important life lessons. For one, it’s how they learn r resiliency
But we often want to prevent our kids from failing, from feeling upset or sad.
Don’t.
We must let our kids fail now so that they can strengthen their growth mindset muscles. If we don’t, they will be adults with no perseverance, with no belief in their abilities to work hard and succeed.
In The Blessings of a Skinned Knee, Wendy Mogel says to be compassionate and concerned but not enmeshed.
Let’s keep each other accountable on this. This is hard but so important.
And if when your child fails, celebrate the lessons in the failure. Tell them about all the famous people who failed and didn’t give up.
Then check out the “You can learn anything” movement that the Khan Academy is doing. Are you in? Go here.
5. Encourage and model positive self talk.
Finally, I think it’s worth sharing this self-talk chart from Fieldcrest Elementary. Our self talk is where it all starts to shift.
Well, I’ve got my work cut out for me. Also, I need to investigate how her ADHD is affecting mindset. I think that plays a huge part. I’ll keep you posted. 
How about you?
Are you hoping to help your kids shift mindsets?
Hi-it's me again...Ms. Cori,
I hope you found the article inspiring and helpful! This week in KG, we will work hard and remember if we get frustrated-to tell ourselves....it's okay to not know something, it's okay to make mistakes because in our room we do hard stuff and even if we can't do something YET, we are going to keep trying and we will NOT give up! Here's to engaged and energized learners who are resilient, optimistic, persistent, flexible and kind kids. :-)
Have a GREAT week,
xx Ms. Cori
